The Scorpio Man If you’re a woman interested in a Scorpio man, you should be forewarned as well--a double standard exists. He is jealous by nature, but he does not like to be possessed and can have a flirtatious nature. He can show interest in those females who are wild and sleazy--he is sensual and while single and free can be easily seduced. However, make no mistake--it wasn’t the woman who won that game. She may believe that she overpowered him with her feminine wiles but the truth is, he allowed it. Yet, for a real relationship, he wants a woman who is respectable and beyond reproach. He wants someone that he can trust; someone whose heart and soul belong only to him. He can be extremely bossy but will not be controlled, especially by a woman. That doesn’t mean that he wants a submissive woman. He wants a woman who is emotionally strong--she’ll have to be to put up with his moods and his temper and to be able to stand her ground, if need be, against that temper--but he doesn’t want someone who is outwardly aggressive or who tries to be or appears to be in control. He is the man and he needs to feel that he is the dominant one and in control. Don't try to lecture him about equality of the sexes or his double standards. He is often fully aware that his attitude may not be completely fair. But if he changes his ways, it has to be HIS decision. And he's not opposed to doing just that--for the right woman. Don’t be anything but truthful with him and don’t play games--don’t try to make him jealous or think that you can manipulate him into doing what you want him to do. He, too, has that sixth sense and he’ll know if you’re playing games. If he does believe that games are being played, he might exhibit that infamous Scorpio temper or, even worse, he might decide to play those games and turn the tables on you. He’s a great game player, but he’ll usually play those games only with women he isn’t really serious about—or when he’s on a mission to get even with someone. Besides, the truth is, you can't make a Scorpio do anything that he really doesn't want to do. He can be obliging if it's something that he doesn't really care about but if he feels strongly about something, no amount of nagging, tears, or threats will make him budge. In fact, you might find that resorting to those kinds of tactics, which might work on other signs, usually backfires when used on a Scorpio. Irritate him enough and he'll do exactly opposite of what you want. When he is trying to seduce you, he can appear to be very open about his feelings. The true Scorpio male is an expert at seduction. But when he is really in love, his nature is very different. He won’t give you flowery, insincere compliments. That would be like lying to you. So when he does compliment you, feel great about it--he means it. He's not known to be overly romantic. Don’t expect him to shower you with extravagant gifts or send you flowers with mushy notes. He may indulge you every now and then if he thinks such things will make you happy but he doesn't really see the need for those types of gestures. He assumes that you know that he loves you and feels that material proof of that love is simply not necessary. He will be attentive and protective (sometimes possessive) when you're out together, but he's not the type to wear his heart on his sleeve. Rarely does he exhibit his feelings in public so don’t expect him to be fawning all over you. To him, the deep emotions and passion that he feels for someone that he really loves are private matters - special secrets between him and her. And when you are alone, well, the passion that he shows in private will more than make up for his lack of public fawning. You don't have to be a supermodel to impress him. He is looking for someone who can touch his heart and soul; not an easy task sometimes since he tends to keep them so protected. There is no road map to that heart and soul; no formula that applies to all Scorpio men. Often, even he can't describe what he wants--what he needs--and can involve himself in many "relationships" during his quest to find that one special person that can satisfy that secret longing that he has. But when it happens, he knows. Again, trust is of utmost importance to a Scorpio--male or female. Only if they trust completely are they able to love completely. As pointed out in the section about Scorpios In General, the Scorpio male often finds it difficult to trust because he is basically a very sensitive soul. He knows, whether from experience or by instinct, that to trust and love completely, he must expose his heart and risk the pain of being wrong or being betrayed. He secretly fears that kind of pain. In fact, in many situations, the temper that he exhibits is actually his way of dealing with fear. "Complete trust is a difficult thing for a Scorpio to achieve, even in matters of the heart; perhaps especially in matters of the heart since being in love made one more vulnerable to extreme hurt and disappointment. . . . It was difficult for him to outwardly admit that he felt fearful of anything; a little worried or concerned, perhaps, but never afraid. He had decided early in his life that fears needed to be kept hidden; to admit to them was to expose his weaknesses which made him vulnerable to those who might try to hurt or manipulate him. He had cultivated a public persona of strong confidence to protect himself and whenever he found himself confronted with fear, he usually reacted with anger to mask his real feelings. But he loved her and he had hurt her and he needed to make her understand." (from the book "Scorpio Love" - click link to read other excerpts from the book that illustrates Scorpio's personality) Once he has fallen in love AND trusts the one that he loves (those two things do not usually occur at the same time), he will be committed to the relationship and can be the most passionate and yet tender and considerate lover. While other men who profess their love may grow weak in the presence of a femme fatale, a Scorpio man who is truly in love won’t suffer from that male affliction. It has taken him a while to find that person with whom he can safely share the secrets that lie in his heart and in his soul. He knows how rare and special that is and he is not willing to risk losing it.